2. PREPARING FOR THE NEW COMER...

Normally it is always believed that the first child feels insecure after the arrival of the second so in such challenging situations the responsibilities lies on the parents as to how to prepare the first child . And here in my case it was going to be very difficult as we decided to have our second child after around seven years so to explain my cutee about the new member needed lot of patience.She was seven when we started asking her whom would she like to play with?She was quite surprised with such questions...and very innocently told with her teddy of course. Then we decided to change the question and started asking her whom would she love to have ....a sissy or a busty robo boy?Now her answers were sorted and and replied ...of course my sissy . She used to be so delighted and would go on to say I would give her all my things and we two would play together....
And never throughout my conceptualization did she ever change her answer and eagerly went on waiting for her sissy.Though we tried to tilt her innocent mind many a times but never did she change her answer.She very carefully started saving all her toys to play with her sissy.
Then when the final day came when she would get her doll she was more excited as we were frightened how could she stay without me? This was the first time I had to part from her I too didn't like it but it was she a seven year old child told me that  " Mama don't worry I am a big girl now , I will take care of myself.You just bring my little sissy home."That was what she really meant my cuteepie really grew up suddenly taking care of her father at home and here waiting for her sissy in the hospital with me .At that time none of my family members were here and in hospitals they require female members to help the nurse and whenever the nurse would shout call the female member from the house then my cuteepie would be standing and this became the talk of all the hospital nurse but I knew my doll was all set for our new member.I saw her running out to the baby room whenever any baby would be crying and tell the nurses that "Please give me my sissy in my lap she  is crying too much .If I take her in my lap she would be quite ."Her passion went on growing and she would keep standing near the baby room for hours together ....
I decided that I cannot leave my cutee alone so I decided whatever time I would be in the hospital I would be with my cutee and cutee's sissy. This was how we prepared her for the new member.

Here at home too she was always caring about her sissy helping me in all the things clubbed with all her personal work which now she managed it herself .I was really surprised to see the drastic change  in my cutee..... 

1. PARENTING AT THIS DIGITAL AGE.....

This question have always baffled me ....whether I am giving the correct answer to all the innocent questions . Initially I just used to be delirious about how to go about it. And this lack of confidence clouded because no-one had ever told me good about my judgmental qualities . This made me negative to the core .I was unable to decide what should be the best way to guide my child.Now we are mostly staying in a nuclear and my daughter was strained in terms of love .We had no  elders around us so the decision was only ours..
I started ..took a deep breadth and closed my eyes and decided that to be a good mother I should first become her friend..And this was the principle with which I moved ahead in my new venture.Now  you might be smiling at me at my this comment " How can I  have friendship with my new born? who could not even talk." But let me  confirm with you that she used to reciprocate to me to whatever I said to her.Now you may either call it co-related or anything else but for me at that time was answering to me.I just loved the way she used to solve all my smallest dilemmas.
This bond persists till date in every phase of her life we have the best of friends.But this sometimes also troubles me that whether she is too much dependent on me even in the smallest of her decession she needs my confirmation .Though all my colleagues always tells me that "Why do you think so negatively? "After all she is informing you before doing anything and that I should be happy about it.But still somewhere deep inside my heart I am still confused .She even asks for my permission to select her subjects .buy shoes.going out with friends to eat etc.etc.
Though I am happy about it but still my mettle don't seem to blink. She is now twenty years but still she only enjoys going out with me and in spite of reading in one of the reputed colleges she never seemed even for a day to get diverted .She is only with her books and her food. She uses the technology but only for her notes .I have recently seen her digging into it for storybooks.Like any other parents I too have inspected her social networking sites and her cell phones but never did I find anything suspicious.Then I decided that I must never doubt on her ever and till date I never do .



And last month when I had to go to her college for the PTM ....I was just  stupefied with the excellent feed-back which I got from her professors.I just didn't knew how to react as my feelings was just on top of the world.They went on to say that she is an excellent human being ,and that I should be proud of her moreover they wanted to know my parenting skills...I ran short of words and just told them that she is my best friend...and that we never hide anything from each other...