This question have always baffled me ....whether I am giving the correct answer to all the innocent questions . Initially I just used to be delirious about how to go about it. And this lack of confidence clouded because no-one had ever told me good about my judgmental qualities . This made me negative to the core .I was unable to decide what should be the best way to guide my child.Now we are mostly staying in a nuclear and my daughter was strained in terms of love .We had no elders around us so the decision was only ours..
I started ..took a deep breadth and closed my eyes and decided that to be a good mother I should first become her friend..And this was the principle with which I moved ahead in my new venture.Now you might be smiling at me at my this comment " How can I have friendship with my new born? who could not even talk." But let me confirm with you that she used to reciprocate to me to whatever I said to her.Now you may either call it co-related or anything else but for me at that time was answering to me.I just loved the way she used to solve all my smallest dilemmas.
This bond persists till date in every phase of her life we have the best of friends.But this sometimes also troubles me that whether she is too much dependent on me even in the smallest of her decession she needs my confirmation .Though all my colleagues always tells me that "Why do you think so negatively? "After all she is informing you before doing anything and that I should be happy about it.But still somewhere deep inside my heart I am still confused .She even asks for my permission to select her subjects .buy shoes.going out with friends to eat etc.etc.
Though I am happy about it but still my mettle don't seem to blink. She is now twenty years but still she only enjoys going out with me and in spite of reading in one of the reputed colleges she never seemed even for a day to get diverted .She is only with her books and her food. She uses the technology but only for her notes .I have recently seen her digging into it for storybooks.Like any other parents I too have inspected her social networking sites and her cell phones but never did I find anything suspicious.Then I decided that I must never doubt on her ever and till date I never do .
And last month when I had to go to her college for the PTM ....I was just stupefied with the excellent feed-back which I got from her professors.I just didn't knew how to react as my feelings was just on top of the world.They went on to say that she is an excellent human being ,and that I should be proud of her moreover they wanted to know my parenting skills...I ran short of words and just told them that she is my best friend...and that we never hide anything from each other...
I started ..took a deep breadth and closed my eyes and decided that to be a good mother I should first become her friend..And this was the principle with which I moved ahead in my new venture.Now you might be smiling at me at my this comment " How can I have friendship with my new born? who could not even talk." But let me confirm with you that she used to reciprocate to me to whatever I said to her.Now you may either call it co-related or anything else but for me at that time was answering to me.I just loved the way she used to solve all my smallest dilemmas.
This bond persists till date in every phase of her life we have the best of friends.But this sometimes also troubles me that whether she is too much dependent on me even in the smallest of her decession she needs my confirmation .Though all my colleagues always tells me that "Why do you think so negatively? "After all she is informing you before doing anything and that I should be happy about it.But still somewhere deep inside my heart I am still confused .She even asks for my permission to select her subjects .buy shoes.going out with friends to eat etc.etc.
Though I am happy about it but still my mettle don't seem to blink. She is now twenty years but still she only enjoys going out with me and in spite of reading in one of the reputed colleges she never seemed even for a day to get diverted .She is only with her books and her food. She uses the technology but only for her notes .I have recently seen her digging into it for storybooks.Like any other parents I too have inspected her social networking sites and her cell phones but never did I find anything suspicious.Then I decided that I must never doubt on her ever and till date I never do .
And last month when I had to go to her college for the PTM ....I was just stupefied with the excellent feed-back which I got from her professors.I just didn't knew how to react as my feelings was just on top of the world.They went on to say that she is an excellent human being ,and that I should be proud of her moreover they wanted to know my parenting skills...I ran short of words and just told them that she is my best friend...and that we never hide anything from each other...
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